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Relational Needs Assessment

Which relational needs matter most to you?

Everyone carries ten core relational needs — but not in equal measure. We'll walk you through fifty short statements, about eight minutes, and show you which three matter most to you right now: the ones that shape how you feel loved, and how you love the people around you.

Why does everyone's list look different? ▾

Two people who care about each other can end up with almost opposite lists. One person lights up from a word of thanks; another barely registers words but feels cared for the moment someone simply shows up. Neither is wrong — the need that matters most to you isn't necessarily the one that matters most to someone close to you. That gap is exactly why it helps to know both lists, not just your own.

Start the assessment

Question 1 of 50

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Heads up

Every answer came out about the same.

That flattens all ten needs to the same score, so we can't yet tell which matter more to you than the rest. We'll ask a few quick head-to-head questions to sort that out.

Answer a few questions

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Which matters most to you, right now, of these?

Your Results

Here's what matters most to you.

Your top relational needs, based on your fifty answers — and the full picture across all ten.

Your top three needs

The individual pieces

How each one shows up on its own — at your best, and under pressure.

The full picture

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Based on the Relational Needs Assessment · © Relational Values Alliance